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I’m familiar with the genderbread tool, so this didn’t really bring up anything new for me. I have spent a long time questioning and examining my gender, sexuality, expression and so on. Honestly, my shakiest label would be my sexuality. Am I gay? But I am attracted to nonbinary AMAB folk. I tenuously label myself bisexual, but I found when starting HRT changed my feelings towards AFAB folk a lot. I used to be very attracted to women, but that changed. And I know sexuality is fluid, but I want to know why it changed. It’s it because I had a rough relationship with an AFAB person? Is it because I see my old body when I look at naked women? Or it could be a combination of many factors. It just seems uncomfy to me to exclude a whole demographic which I used to find attractive. I almost feel like a bad person for changing.
I chose fatphobia. I found an interesting study from 1993. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8293029/
My thoughts are conflicted. The fact that we knew fatphobia was a problem back in the early nineties, and did nothing about it really gets me angry. Researchers even developed a treatment program to reduce fatphobia in participants.
It’s sad that mostly women who are of average weight are fatphobic, but it makes sense. The constant pressure to remain “attractive” is relentless.
To intersect this with sex positivity, I believe that all bodies can be attractive and capable of pleasure. This is a core part of sex positivity!
We must be aware of fatphobia for sex education! Besides assuring people that their weight has no bearing on their ability to find partners and enjoy themselves, there are resources, tips and tricks, and even assistive devices that can help facilitate more comfortable pleasure!
There wasn’t any questions on the SARS that made me uncomfortable- probably due to being with ASPECC for a while before coming into this course.
When I am uncomfortable, I remind myself that not everyone thinks like me, and I shouldn’t restrict others to my way of thinking.
I’m not surprised at my SARS score. It reflects all the learning I’ve done with ASPECC and all the work I’ve done to reframe my thoughts around sexuality!
Sex Positivity to me means a complete lack of judgement about bodies, sexual partners, activities, etc. It helps create a safer space for people to explore and learn about themselves. Sex Positivity accepts that sexuality is an essential part of our lives and doesn’t try to hide it away as taboo or naughty.
Social justice to me is taking a stanf for those who cannot, and making the effort to include everyone without having being asked to.
Name: Theodore Marsan
Pronouns: he/they
Location: Edmonton, AB
About me: I’m currently a psychology student working toward my BA. I plan on taking Master’s in counseling and art therapy down the road. I’m passionate about sex education, especially from a trauma informed perspective.
I feel like it’s incredibly important to have more queer educators out there. We need to show others that we are just people, and that there is a whole spectrum of gender and sexuality to explore.